Guess what I learned?!?!

THE OLDER I GET, THE LOWER MY MUH FUGGIN' TOLERANCE FOR BS...

So when it REEEEEALLY hit me that my daughter was going to go through with marrying her punk.ass.jailbird.ass son's father with or WITHOUT my PRECIOUS blessing ::rolls eyes:: I went a step further and put her @ss straight O-U-T of my house. [Yep...I sure did and as a matter of fact, she's been gone for about 3 weeks now!!!]

Y'all don't understand...From the time that chile turned 18 [hell maybe even 17] she's been boasting "she's grown" so I reasoned that with THAT being the case, she ought to be able to make grown woman decisions and it's onlllllllly right that she do so from the comfort of her own damn home!

Besides, like my older sister ALWAYS says: I am my mother's child ---> STUBBORN AS ALL HELL so there's no way I'm going to be bustin' my @ss at work 5 days out of the week to put a roof over her head, put money in her pocket whenever she's outta work [which is pret-TY damn often], buy food to feed her, clothes to cover her damn back [when shit don't fit cuz she's sitting around eatin' all damn day], clean up after her cuz although she's grown, I gotta talk to her as often as I do my 9 y/o about picking up after herself and her son and she don't even PRETEND to value my damn opinion.

Everybody thinks I'm wrong...
Is quick to tell me "I shouldn't have done THAT"...
"That I should think about my grandson" [yadda yadda FRIGGIN yadda] but you know what ---> until anyone has walked a mile in my shoes, they won't fully understand ALL that my daughter has put me through.

I mean I'm pretty open in my posts...
I talk about A LOT of shit other folks wouldn't dare put out there and I'm not ashamed of that at all but still yet, there are even deeper things I leave out.

So while everybody else is busy worrying about my GROWN daughter, for once, I gotta worry about me/what I want.

Ummm...Did I mention the older I get, the lower my tolerance for bullshit?!?! Yeah...it's a true story!

13 Flew Over the Cuckoo's Nest:

BorednTalkative said...

As my child is only 2yrs old, I can't really comment on what you've been through with your daughter.

But I think you did the right thing. Sometimes you have to let your kids learn on their own. As you said, she says she's grown and soon to be a married woman so she will need to learn to do things herself.

Hey you still have other children to take care of, and you need to be around for them. Stress can kill you, and you don't need that.

I hope things work out for both of you.

Thoughts of a Southern gal said...

It's call tough love!

I think you do the right thing. You still have an 8 yr old to take care of. You don't need the added stress she's bring into your house.

By the things you've posted before, I know my mom would have put me out long time ago. Probably at the moment when "I'm grown" ecapes my lips.

Your daughter has to learn from her own mistakes. She will soon see the error of her ways and I'm sure you will be right there comforting her.

Sha Boogie said...

i don't even blame you, like she said she grown, hmph! so, she should do grown folk things, like pay her own bills and such. I'm ridin with you!

RealHustla said...

i paid my dad rent while living in his finished basement. if i wanted to allow my very disrespectful BD1 to continue to visit his son there then i was told that i would have to leave. I did. Never went back. So no, you ain't did nothing wrong. Kids have been put out for MUCH less.

Insatiable One said...

I don't blame you the least bit. She lives in your house and needs to act like an adult while proclaiming to be one.

Sorry she had to get put out but she's grown, right? *sucking teeth*

$10 says she's be trying to crawl back soon and say that she will have a long engagement with the jailbird. *rolling eyes*

Jewelry Rockstar said...

Married people usually live away from their parents. If she wants to marry someone who can't help support her, well she'll have to learn the consequences of that. Meanwhile, she'll be married and taking care of herself. Some of us learn lessons through the mistakes of others. Some of us learn by making mistakes ourselves. Either way, just pray for her safety and watch her learn.

Still Patrice said...

Girl my mom didn't have ANY peace until she made her grown children do for themselves. My sisters were about to drive her crazy.
So kudos to you for putting an end to her foolishness. She'll appreciate you in the long run.

The Second Sixty-Eight said...

Only somebody who doesn't have an ingrate teen living in their house would even thing to utter that you did something wrong.

Just last night, okay three dark thirty in the morn, I had to look at the four, YES FOUR, negative contributions under my roof and tell them the shit was on the way to the fan and the rubber (of their shoe bottoms) was about to hit the bricks. But I digress...

You can't let your grandman be used as a hostage or bargaining chip in these types of negotiations. Otherwise you will end up raising him without her at all!

I know mine bet not think of telling me they are grown unless they got a damn signed lease wrapped up in their grubby little fists!

Organized Noise said...

Do what you have to do? If she wants to be grown and do grown woman things, treat her like one. If she doesn't appreciate what you've done for her, let her future (as you say)punk.ass.jailbird.ass son's father take care of her.

Ms.Lady said...

Daayuuum...you did what i WISH Mars mom would do to his shit-talkin-think-she-fly-without-a- pot-to-piss-in-or-a-window-to- throw-it-out-of sister

shew..i feels no sympathy for NO ONE but the baby..but she'll make sure hes ok

you CANNOT live up in someones house PAY NOTHING,DO NOTHING and even have the meer THOUGHT that you can do as you please

Uh Uh not whats poppin
she'll learn and she'll be crawling back atsome point..they always do...I DID

Kryssy said...

Ms. B.... I can see..no... FEEL that your daughter has my type of attitude. Thinks she knows every damn thang, and most DEF feels like her parents OWE her EVERYTHING. I had to stop being an ungrateful wench and realize my parents worth. I didnt fully see it until I moved out and even then , for a while I acted very selfishly. Your daughter WILL get over being mad at you. And she WILL learn to appreciate you. And at the end, you all will definately end up being best friends... like me and my parents. *hugz*

Luke Cage said...

Dayum! Now that's what you call Tough love like a m'ugg!

Keisha "Kitten" Isaacs said...

Nobody uses those smiley faces like you Sistah...I've been neglecting my blog too...we'll get better sooner rather than later!