Another one bites the dust

Once a teenage/single parent (myself), I can admit that I know first hand the struggle of trying to do it alone so....it ALWAYS saddens me to learn that another young lady is stuck walkin' the same damn path.

Don't get me wrong...I'm not saying ALL teenagers are irresponsible OR that abortion is the better option SHOULD teenage pregnancy occur but I do think there is a lack of concern (amongst teenagers) when it comes to practicing safe sex and that more often than not when a teenager DOES become pregnant it is automatically assumed that parents or other family member(s) will *okay...more like ARE* supposed to be there to help pick up the slack.

I went to the baby shower of a young lady who is like family to me (this past weekend) and got the sense that that was her mentality.

Case in point: Both she and the father are just 17 years old and they conceived because he told her "he doesn't like condoms". She dropped out of High School and he barely goes (these days). She's jobless while he works but only makes pocket change that he'd much rather drop on sneakers and video games so my friend (who is her mother and also jobless) is left with the responsibility of bending over backwards to provide EVERYTHING this child is going to need because the young man's parents flat out REFUSE to take any responsibility. Not to mention that my friend is STILL going to be responsible for taking care of her daughter as well.

I was shocked when I showed up @ the shower and daddy dearest wasn't in attendance...

Why?!?!?! Well because the two were inseparable PRIOR to her becoming pregnant. I swear it was like every single time you saw one, you saw the other.

When I asked the mom-to-be about it, it looked like her whole world was about to crumble...

Long story short, he up and decided "he doesn't wanna be with her anymore" and he even has a new girlfriend.

::snaps fingers:: JUST.LIKE.THAT!!!

I asked her what she planned to do now that he wouldn't be around and with NO HESITATION @ ALL, she assured me she and the baby would be JUST fine..."after all, she STILL has her mother".

I thought (to myself of course) that she's right...

As much of a strain as it's going to be over the next god-only-knows-how-many years, she does have her mother's support BUT with some more self respect and a little piece of latex, she AND A LOT OF OTHER TEENAGERS TODAY could have THAT P-L-U-S a whole lot more.

Tuesday, September 22, 2009 | |

8 Flew Over the Cuckoo's Nest:

Insatiable One said...

Little girls see all the cuteness and the fawning over them that they think comes with a baby, then reality sinks in. The baby daddy bounces because "he can't deal with this", no money, no education, no plan. And then you have this little life you are responsible for but that your mother ends up taking care of? Sigh. I need little girls to keep their legs closed until they are ready to take responsibility for their actions.

September 22, 2009 10:36 PM  
Rashan Jamal said...

You gonna make me lock my future kids up. I'm not trying to take care of another kid just as I'm getting the other ones out the house. but of course if it did happen, I know that I would have to.

September 24, 2009 5:38 PM  
YouToldHarpoTaBeatMe said...

Unfortunately, my daughter's girlfriends have been her lesson. And to think...I almost let her in the room when I delivered her brother.

The child would be scarred for life.

September 25, 2009 5:48 PM  
Sha Boogie said...

ohh lawd. being a fresh new mommy *smile* that makes me cringe!! babies are NO joke, I am a grown ass woman and sometimes all the feeding, changing and just living life according to babies needs leaves me teary eyed! I dunno why people think having a baby is so 'cute' lol

September 25, 2009 7:00 PM  
Go B. said...

At 17 years old I knew better than to come home with a baby for my parents to raise. I knew that having unprotected sex could lead to pregnancy and much more!

It's like how selfish can you be to get pregnant and put the responsibility of raising YOUR child on someone else (your family and tax payers)? If I had a daughter that was not capable of providing for herself and she decided she would go get pregnant there would be no damn baby shower. Yes you are pregnant but this is in no way a celebration!

And of course the daddy's isn't around that's how they do things these days apparently!

I pray for this girl, her family and the baby!

Sincerely,

Go

September 25, 2009 7:25 PM  
xxxx said...

i am just glad that i never had to go through that as a teenager or put my family through the added stress. it is sad but its not unusual. where i live at now that is all you see teenagers at sixteen with two kids by the time they graduate from high school they have two or three kids and a couple of abortions under their belt. its sad.

September 27, 2009 11:25 AM  
Charisse said...

It is very sad that things arent going how she would want it to be. Our girls are being more and more gullible, as if there are no lessons to be taught. It is scary that they depend so much on Mommy!

September 28, 2009 12:21 PM  
Jewelry Rockstar said...

I guess the cycle continues. I've been talking to my 12 year old lately about how she will end up in the projects if she gets pregnant. I squeeze in the convo, anytime I see an opening. I was giving a Science lesson the other day and the text said something about living things needed a safe environment. That's when I snuck in the pregnancy and project thing.

Hope she got it!

September 29, 2009 8:33 AM  

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